Marriage and "Settling in Life"

Many people have asked me about marriage and when do I intend to bind myself in this relationship. I had to give it a deep though as the time has come for me to settle in life. Apparently, the phrase “settle in life” means marriage. “How does one settle in life after marriage?” is what makes me ponder.

I may have talked about marriage in a light manner as always. I don't treat my life so casually the way I talk. I am in my mid twenties and may not sound like one when I talk or write. My casual nature is just a result of a promise to myself that whatever be the circumstances, I have to be happy with whatever I do.

I do know the responsibility of a man in a relationship. In a marriage, it’s the girl who sacrifices a lot prior marriage. She gives up her home, her toys and above all her parents just to live with an individual all her life. She blindly trusts this guy hoping he would take care of her well hereafter.
From a guy’s point of view, there is responsibility that we take all this into consideration and give that girl the same or more happiness than what she got at her own home. Compromises are done from both ends and it is the couple’s duty to adjust to a point where the relationship clicks. If one of them stops adjusting or is defiant on not changing themselves wherever the relationship demands, the relationship starts to rust.
As a student of MBA, I define this as, an alliance of two organizations where all the resources are shared. This both organizations work towards a common goal that is bringing out the best of this alliance. There is no run for profit individually but profit is generated to help each other stay in business for life. It is always a "going concern" concept.
I know the risk of ending up with the wrong partner. I am a firm believer in the saying that a woman can make or break you. But I also believe that if I am successful in keeping my partner happy, then I am bound to keep life happy. All the above does not mean I will be my woman's man listening to all she says. There are times when you stop listening and do things your way but ensure your way does not hurt your partner.
Give me another free 1 hour and I am up for writing a book on above topic. All I wanted to say was I understand the responsibilities and am not fazed by looking at couples and their romance. Marriage is a gamble with life where you do not know what's holding for you on other side. It’s a risk which may turn out good, may turn out to be bad. Yet again, even setting up a business is a gamble where you do not know if you would get ROI and make profits. You gamble with resources and count on it to work risking all that you have. It’s a plunge we have to take as humans until unless we decide to work in "not for profit organization" committing our life to social service. That is, one decides to become a nun or priest in a church!
I am tired of my own lecture. Hope to be writing sometime again.